Long term thinking by Evan La Ruffa

It benefits us. But we’re programmed to be considerate of a more truncated, immediate timeline, in which the wrong decision could mean our life.

The reality is that most of what we deal with doesn’t rise to that level, but we still have it in us. We’re one click away from a drama, and it can be hard to buffer or distinguish when food, clothing, and shelter is largely accounted for, and this animalistic setting becomes further relegated to the extreme margin of life.

I don’t mean to diminish all the hardship 2020 has brought. I am feeling for people these days.

But we can get our lizard brain caught in the spokes of a more evolved sensibility in the run of play.

When we have a chance to go apeshit that doesn’t mean we should. In fact, a little discernment can yield great learning.

The kind we only get by doing the work.

Yea, but how do we deal with conflict? by Evan La Ruffa

When everyone is getting along, it’s easy to go with the flow. Agreement, smiles, & collaboration.

But that doesn’t really tell us much. It’s supposed to go well when everyone’s aligned.

The real question is, how do we deal with conflict? How do we deal with moments of disagreement, opposition, or miscommunication?

Are we fair? Do we get defensive? Do we listen to the critique? Are we honest about our potential missteps? Are we honest about others contribution? Do we lay down? Do we puff out our chest?

Do we do what’s fair despite short term implications?

Can we stand behind and feel good about our contribution to a space?

Hey ego, step aside.

The Value of Art by Evan La Ruffa

Art is dynamic. Many of us work and save and strategize and plan, so we can spend our hard earned money on art. On its face it doesn’t sound right, but it is.

Because remember, art can be… posters, prints, films, food, documentaries, museums, shoes, home furnishings, clothes, vinyl records, concerts, live streams, downloads, puzzles, pins, broaches, videos, and so much more. 

If you look at your bank account statement, you’d realize that a much larger percentage of your paycheck purchases art and culture than you might have previously thought. Yet despite this, so many people think of art as frivolous. A solo pursuit, a person in their studio, an activity of self-indulgence, an expense unwarranted, a like-to-have in a world increasingly focused on what we need.

Art can be those things. But I’d also suggest that art is actually the most important thing in the world. 

It propels everything. Every new creation, every new solution, every new group building something together around shared values, it’s all creativity turned into reality - which is perhaps how I would define art.

When we apply that understanding to how we live in the world, what we invest in, what we support, what we fund, and who we are, we begin to see that art is the realization of a spark, an idea actualized, and that that offering and process is sacred.

How many billions of humans over the history of this world dared to think a new thought and make it real? Unfathomable. Inspiring. Awesome.

Quite simply, when we think about what we deem valuable, art should rise to the top.

What’s more, by reevaluating art’s value, we enable progress. We take the top off, we let the big thoughts ride. That’s because of the exact premise I stated before; art isn’t a commodity. It’s not a pack of gum, a sandwich, a simple measurement of practical applicability.

Pay money, eat sandwich. No, no, no. With art, you get so much more. 

You get the artists’ entire life. You get a beautiful memory, and oftentimes the type of lasting memory that shimmers and rises above the rest, in fact. A lot of the time you even get a tangible thing to hold, admire, or review.

The truth is, the value of art is so much more than most of us ever give it credit for.

Beyond the painting and songs and videos and aesthetics, art is everything creative that is made real. 

I don’t know about you, but that’s worth way more to me than most everything.

Planting the antidote by Evan La Ruffa

Part of any fork in the road involves pattern recognition.

What did I do last time I came to a fork in the road?

When life gives us constraints, a huge part of dealing with them positively has to do with having already planted the antidote.

If you’ve got a solution or a model for finding one, that’s worth holding on to.

And in 2020 our collective consciousness is taxed.

Plenty of forks in the road.

Going forward, we see the value of a well-placed antidote, a thought that combats the wallow with the worthiest of contributions: taking action toward solving it by choosing a path.

What thought has you trippin’?

Before you get to that fork again, plant the antidote.

Carbs and self-compassion by Evan La Ruffa

Hey everyone... just wanted to offer a little word as we embark on a weird fuckin' day.

Personally, it seems impossible that we are now presented with a chance to rid ourselves of what has been a rough 4 years in America. I could barely sleep last night and will be digesting a maelstrom of media all day becase I'm masochistic, but regardless what it is, I encourage you to do what you need to do for you today.

Extra carbs, that drink that makes you feel like a million bucks, and less work than normal. Despite the anxiety, I do feel positive about what will happen.

A vote for Trump was so much easier for a lot of people 4 years ago, and despite his 42% base, I do believe we will indeed end this nightmare.

I sometimes wonder where to split the difference as far as politics within IPaintMyMind, but the reality is that if you're down for IPMM or even me as a person, the chance that you're conservative is unlikely.

I’m hella biased, and I am pretty sure that. if you still receive these emails, it’s because that bias is actually a set of values we share.

Thank you for being you - please be gentle with yourselves today, and feel free to reach out if you wanna BS, talk shit, cry, yell, dance real silly on Zoom for a minute, or see who has had more coffee.

Dog eat dog says a lot... by Evan La Ruffa

Forgive the gap this year… I think we can all extend a little compassion this year.

That said, has it ever stood out to you when people reflect Machiavellian views? Dog eat dog philosophies where people accept and even embrace or promote value-less winning are pretty indicative of what you might experience with that person.

If they believe in dog eat dog, then they’ll have no problem eating your dog.

Believe people when they tell you they’ll sacrifice any semblance of values in favor of securing their own lunch.

Reincarnated As Fruit by Evan La Ruffa

A little writing prompt… if any of you decide to go for it, please do share it with me!

This prompt is about staying concise. A koan maybe, or perhaps just a brain fart.

So here goes…

We’re basically writing two couplets, but we just don’t care about rhyme. Maybe rhythm, but not rhyme.

So, write two lines, followed by two more lines. Only you’ll really only write 3 lines, because the last line will be…

I hope that one time I get to come back as fruit.

For example, here’s mine…

‘Trying to fend off Groundhog’s day, show up and hold it down.

Super lucky, tired, and fairly raw.

Loved in, cooped up, and found.

I hope that one time I get to come back as fruit.’

Have fun.

7:15 by Evan La Ruffa

I love the way the light hits the record player at 7:15, in through the window, bouncing off the wood and right at me.

It’s most victorious for about 2 minutes, a beacon in the corner that reminds me of the fleeting nature of every day, and my infatuation with glimmers.

This tiny, beautiful piece. This familiar, hopeful note.

Before the needle ever drops, only while I can catch it, and after I’ve stopped to take a look.

I love the way the light hits the record player at 7:15.

What day is it? by Evan La Ruffa

Hard to say, but I know I’m really fuckin’ lucky.

And as much as I shy away from platitudes about how loving what you do means not working a day in your life, there is a nugget of truth to it.

While I find myself perpetually exhausted, the lack of time to work & the other constraints that have affected my home and work life over the last 6 weeks have also reinforced a few things for me…

  1. Now is a time to double down on learning … whether in our businesses or our personal lives, anytime life slows down, it’s a signal to me to focus on learning something new that will help me adapt, grow, or level up.

  2. Erring on the side of giving is a good karmic bet … I am lucky enough to not worry about food or work, and I have a support system I am almost sheepish about, which only further convinces me that showing up and giving more in a human way is a great investment in ourselves and in the world. Whether the nonprofits we love or all the incredible local projects that have cropped up, there are more outlets to give than ever.

  3. We are all feeling pinched in some way, but I’ve got it good … for those of us who are lucky to just be annoyed by the state of things now, it really is so important to keep in perspective how much Covid-19 is disproportionately affecting working & minority communities. This point can not only help us open up our wallets to good causes but also spurs on the next point…

  4. How will what we learn and how we adapt inform our contribution to solutions of the future?? How do we connect? What do we work on?

It’s that last point I’m unsure of.

But I see a lot of upside…………..

Recalibrating by Evan La Ruffa

It’s been a while since I wrote here… but I hope you’ve all been well.

It’s been nuts adjusting to this era we find ourselves in, but I’ve been trying not to lose my head. I’ve written a couple pieces that might make sense to or be fun for the folks on this list…

For small businesses

For nonprofits

An interview with an artist

A rant about teachers being heroes

If there are local projects you’re involved in to help people in need, please let me know about it. I’d like to spread the word and donate.

Take care y’all.

The What & How Work Mix by Evan La Ruffa

WHAT a business, company, or organization does should demand 80-90% of their time. Improving on HOW it operates should demand 10-20% of their time.

Notice that the lowest acceptable number for HOW is 10%. Not 5%, 3% or 0%.

10%. Without that 10%, a business is just a hamster wheel and purpose goes out the window. An existential treadmill.

If we love it, we’ll want to do it again tomorrow…

But to truly love it, it has to work well.

Opportunity costs by Evan La Ruffa

They happen to be two-fold. There’s the opportunity and there’s the cost.

The opportunity is a chance to spend our time in another way. And the cost is the money we may (or may not) lose out on by spending our time in the way we’ve decided to.

If the opportunity is worth it, the costs may not even matter.

I think the real question is, what do we give up by overthinking the costs and undervaluing the opportunity?

The numbers and the feelings by Evan La Ruffa

How do we really measure our impact? How do we evaluate whether we are doing work that fulfills us & makes a difference?

Numbers are surely helpful but the feelings are just as, if not more important.

We have to love the process. Because then, winning is just getting to do it again.

In fact, meaningful numbers with positive cycles of value, purpose, and connection enables the best of both worlds.

If you’re U2, do you measure your success in record sales or creative joy + people inspired?

The way the work resonates in us, the value we bring to our people, the meaning provided, these are all root indicators of purpose.

Numbers we can take to the bank, but the feelings indicate if we’re in the right spot.

Beyond opposition by Evan La Ruffa

Sometimes scarcity makes competition feel inevitable.

But it is evitable. If we build new solutions, create alliances, come correct, and give a lot, everyone stands to gain.

And just because we’ve noticed those who think they’re competing with us doesn’t mean we need to respond in-kind.

We can choose to bring people along with us. We can be inclusive.

We can decide collaboration is going to be our uncanny asset.

All of that upside is beyond opposition.

Art is emotional by Evan La Ruffa

Art is emotional because it can pause time and take us to another place.

Art has the ability to step outside of everything else and move us.

That process creates an emotional connection akin to a drug, revealing why so many artists can’t help but create.

But the emotional experience of art, being captivated by theatre, transfixed by film or digesting a painting by one of the world’s masters, these are all priceless experiences.

They are emotional data points turned into nostalgia that become our personality. It’s hard to think of something more powerful.

We’ll pay 10x for that every day of the week.

And it’s worth it.

The creatives will lead. by Evan La Ruffa

Creativity is the most sure-fire way of decoupling ourselves from commoditized value.

Digital, automation, AI, and a variety of technological advances will soon see entire sectors pummeled.

The fulfilling, profitable, personally liberating jobs of the future will require creative skills.

Services are the where the blue ocean lies. Services are art. Art is creative.

The creatives will unlock their potential.

The creatives will lead.

Ways of thinking by Evan La Ruffa

People can steal ideas but ways of thinking are peskier.

It’s short tail versus long tail. The stolen idea is like the last few dollars in a bank account: the cash is helpful now but it doesn’t provide the same level of comfort as a deposit schedule.

The stolen idea pays some small immediate dividend but the forecast for more inspiration is bleak.

When we worry about a ‘borrowed idea’ our ego flares & practicality goes out the window.

Let them borrow it.

Our ways of thinking are not on offer.

5 Reasons to embrace your ‘weird’ by Evan La Ruffa

  1. You’re you. We like you exactly the way you are.

  2. We all have a certain amount of ‘weird’ and it can’t be hidden.

  3. Attempting to suppress your ‘weird’ will make you sick.

  4. Everybody is imperfect and things never come out ‘just right.’ There will be a margin for error, you included.

  5. There is unlimited potential for fulfillment on the other side of embracing your ‘weird.’

Scale, cost, quality, and end games. by Evan La Ruffa

When we’re trying to scale quickly, we might be fine with high costs. Gotta ramp up.

When we’re focused on profitability, we’ll need to reduce costs. Gotta slim down.

When we’re determined to provide quality, increasing scale and reducing costs can be detrimental. Gotta think about end games.

If our end game is the experience, then all of the above are right answers. It just depends what experience we’re trying to create………

At the end of the day, if quality is what we’re going for, every piece is a chance to deliver an experience, satisfaction, connection, & joy.

Either way, we need to pick an axis.